Here are a few questions I’ve received with my responses. If you have had the same question(s) I hope this helps!

“How do you get over someone who you really love that broke your heart? “

I am sorry to hear about your recent heartbreak. It’s one of life’s worse pains I know.

Your question was “how do you get over someone who you really love that broke your heart ” and the answer to that isn’t easy but it’s true. Allow time and your belief in true love to encourage you. There were times in my life that I didn’t want to live because the person that I gave my all to showed me that my all wasn’t enough.

I had my share of broken hearts, you should read my story. I had to come to the realization that the person that God had for me was going to find me and never leave me! He would take me as I was and love me unconditionally! I had to go through a lot to get there, read plenty of books and articles and I prayed my face off. I know the pain feels deep as if it will never go away, and you feel like the person you were connected to you’ll never stop being in love with, but you will. Time will pass and when you believe in yourself and your worth you will hope again, hope and know that the right one will come and love you like no other! You can read about my dream came true HERE, and be encouraged. God will give you what and who He intends on you having.

“Is it ok to masturbate when you are left single and used to having sex with my wife and no longer can? I am finding it very hard to suppress my desires and can not have sex outside of marriage.”

I want to first thank you for your question! And then applaud you for wanting to know what’s right so that you can do it. I can’t imagine how hard it is to live without your mate yet still be married, but I do know the struggles of singleness and falling into sin. I can only give you my answer as it pertains to a Christian life because it’s what I believe in with all of my being. I did try things my way and the ways of others before yet they never seemed to work out. To answer your question I would have to say no. When we become married to someone the bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

So if your wife says you can do this while you guys are in your love session, then its ok. But others cannot be involved. No movies, no pictures, that would be considered “Defiled”. I’m not saying that it will be easy, but if God is your reason for why you do what you do,  you must  trust Him. He gives us instructions to care for us and not harm us. I’m not sure if your wife left for good and if divorce is in your future, but all I can say is honor God with your life and your body and He will see to it that all of your needs be met, (in the way he approves.)I hope this helps and I wish you the best.

There’s this guy that I have liked for about 3 months now, and I think I’m in love with him. However, there’s this other guy (my ex) that I’ve had a crush on since about a year and since we broke up and so on. I haven’t seen him for a while but, today we were hanging out and we had a deep serious talk about relationships and about how we ended in the past. For sure, I knew I still had strong feelings for him. So he asked me out and I said yes. Now, I’m getting a little mixed with my feelings cause I’m thinking about the other guy I love. It’s hard to explain, I’ve waited to get back with my ex for about a year and he asks me out and I say yes but then before I knew it, I’ve been loving the other guy more than my ex. I’m confused and unsure of what I should do. I know I love the guy I’m with now, but my feelings for the other guy is getting in the way of how I should really feel. Please help me.

I really want to help you with your love dilemma but you didn’t really give me enough information about the guys to be able to respond in grave detail. Like why did you guys break up in the first place? It’s possible to be in love with two people at once, but you have to look at what is truly best for you right now. I would say don’t have sex until you get married and see both of these guys as only friends until you are sure who would make a great husband. Sex confuses and complicates things. If you tell them both you only want to be friends without sex until you figure out who’s the 1, you’ll get to know who fits better with you in time! I’m sure of it! I know this may not be the answer you hoped for, but like I said, you gave me limited information. Please visit this website listed below that has many articles, video’s and other cool stuff that can help you in all of your relationships! And I do thank you for trusting me to help!

www.therelatioshipstuff.com   (click the “COURTSHIP”  topic on the right)

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