What is it to be a Christian wife? Does it mean a constant state of submission and you don’t get to voice your opinion? Or does it mean you can say what you would like but it really doesn’t have any weight to it because only the husband’s decisions count? A little and some of all of those things are true. It’s called…


Today, I’ve noticed that a lot of women (black women mostly) refuse to give up their rights as an individual and become 1 with a REAL MAN. See, when you marry a REAL MAN, you won’t mind letting him lead and giving up some of the things you held on to for dear life. Things like male relationships, hanging in clubs with your single girlfriends, talking on the phone for hours instead of cooking and cleaning, those things can blow away like the wind. But when you realize that the whole entire relationship is based on sacrifice, you grow weary and give up along the way. Now, I’m not saying that you are supposed to stop being who you are, some guys control and want you to be their trophy wife. I’m not speaking of those types of relationships. I’m only referring to the situations where a woman is hard pressed on standing her ground at all cost. Sometimes the cost is singleness forever. She will be single so long thinking that God hasn’t sent her someone yet, that God has forgotten her, or that maybe she is just called to singleness. Well I have news for you; if you are called to singleness you won’t desire marriage with all your being. If God has called you to that lifestyle, when you are following Him and His plans for your life you will be content in your singleness.

So, it’s 2012 and women are leaders, running for president, owning their own businesses, and holding it down for the family! She is strong, proud, brave, smart, wealthy, and powerful. But at night she is alone. Every man who comes into her life is either not on her level, or not good enough in some sort of way. She either won’t let anyone in because she judges them from their cover, or anyone who is let in runs far from her because they can see that she won’t be willing to take her position as a wife. A REAL MAN that follows God has to lead. He understands that’s what God is calling him to and he takes that very seriously. It’s not a dictatorship type relationship, but one of love and compromise. He will ask for your opinions and input and even let you run areas that you are stronger in. He will also understand the bible teaches that we are to submit to one another. He will love you and not just lead you.  And not only because you love God, but because of your man’s love for you, you shall, and should follow his lead.

This is why I think it’s important to be friends with someone before you move toward an intimate relationship, you need to get to know who you are dealing with. If you find out in your friendship that a certain man is rather passive, you may not want to submit to that. It’s too late to find out big things like that after marriage, you need to know a person’s make up on the outsides. People can change, but for the most part what you see is what you get.

OK, I’m done for now. This topic is very lengthy but I just wanted to touch it a little today. Feel free to comment, add, or ask anything! Thank you so much for reading!

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